Hi Adele, thanks hun that's really kind. It's just comforting to know I'm not alone in all this. I'm scared to admit I need help, i haven't let myself grieve properly which is probably why I've ended up getting myself in such a state. Same goes to you, if you ever need a chat I'm here to listen. You're such a strong woman, just talking about how you feel is amazing. It was a massive step for me signing up to this. Take care, speak soon xx
6 months on pops
Thankyou so much sweetie same with me I wouldn't see the doctors so I'm there Wednesday it's been six months and ten days today so I'll let you know how I get on and thankyou for your kind words means alot your pretty brave to first time coming on talking about how you feel that takes guts and determination im proud of you keep posting keep in touch speak soon take care hun and ring the doctors Tuesday try and push for an appointment it will give your mum piece of mind aswell someone told me on here bottling it all up is the worst it's true when you need to cry hun it's natural emotions xx
I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. Xxx
I lost mine 2 years ago then my mum one year ago. "Devastated" doesn't really sum it up....
I am still here though and determined to make the most of life as I know that is what my parents would want for me.
My tips from my experience are....let it all out! Have a really big cry whenever you need to. It helps.
Know your dad loved you so much. Not everyone wins blessed with that so it is a very special thing.
Take one day at a time.
Reach out for help as much as you can. This forum has really helped me and the online counselling is fantastic too.
Write things down. I wrote lots at first about my special memories with my parents.
Talk to your mum. She probably doesn't want to upset you either but you are both there for each other.
I hope I don't sound like I am telling you what to do but I hope it gives you hope that you will get through this and you will cherish your very special dad in your heart forever. Nobody can take that love away.
I read lots on this site and it makes me feel a belonging in a world of grief I cannot understand or want to be in my dad died on 22 nd May and like you I’m struggling with how I feel and with my mum’s grief it’s so heartbreaking watching and listening to her she wants him back as we all do, it was a sudden collapse in a shop then 2 days ventilated in ITU before they turned the machines off. I don’t want to break down in front of my mum as she says she wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for me and my husband I cannot tell him how I’m feeling as I don’t think he’s wanting to hear me being constantly sad and Father’s Day was so sad it was also my wedding anniversary and work should I go back yes then no as I don’t want to talk to people or feel able to help others with problems I’m just so confused and sad sorry this is so long it’s my first post
I am so sorry to hear I lost my mom xmas eve 2010 to stomach cancer she was my rock hot a day goes by where i dont think of her. My dad has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer in March and my heart is broken.