Losing both parents

Lost my mum 6 years ago at the age of 76 and my dad last week at the age of 86 . Feel so guilty my dad went into a coma while I was not there in hospital . Didn’t get a chance to say goodbye .

I’m so sorry for your losses, I didn’t get to say goodbye to my dad either as he died very suddenly a month ago from a bleed on the brain, he was alone and I wish I had been there to hold his hand as he passed so he wouldn’t have been alone. He wouldn’t want me to regret things though and he had the death he would have wanted, instant and no hospitals. I just struggle with wrapping my head around the fact that he’s actually gone, he was 73 and I wasn’t ready to lose him, I guess non of us ever are. I just wanted to send you a hug and say you are not alone, hugs xxxx

Thx for the encouragement . My dad was nearly 87 so it’s hard even now to accept it , last Monday he went for a CT scan at 7.30 am and thru discovered the same , bleeding on the brain from 2 places , not sure if this was dementia related or not but I never got to hold his hand and say I love you , he never responded to anything after that and by 7.40 pm the same night I lost him . I thought I was alone but after hearing your loss , I feel I can at least relate to someone . Take care .x

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 5 years ago, I was stuck on the motorway, in a traffic jam, trying to get to the hospital, when I got a txt to say he had gone. I lost my mother 14 months ago, she died suddenly in the night, alone and I wanted to hold her hand and be there, I told her I would. The guilt is awful, it seems to get worse although people have said it will ease. I don't know if it does or if we just get used to living with it. I know my parents wouldn't like me to feel so bad, I'm sure yours would be the same. The grieving process is a hard road.

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